Fortunately, one of my close friends to tell site, http://www.herpesmates.com, a site for people like me to meet friends and support.
I joined it and meet some great people there. But I am still afraid I will be hurt by them again. Woooo, no, I am reaally care this and hope that will never happen again.
Can you advise? What I will do?
shadylover
oh i'm so sorry. I dont really know what to say b/c i cant really relate. but i dont think you'll be hurt again. Just as long as youre careful. Open up again and go out and meet people. You'll find someone that accepts that you have herpes.
newbiegranny
You know.... it burns me when the innocent spouse gets an incurable disease because the other person was unfaithful. It's so unfair! But then, life isn't fair.
There are people who will be with you and use condoms. I personally don't believe that's perfectly safe, but some people are willing.
Also, you are not the only one with herpes in the world. There's a lot of people I bet, because it is so contagious and once you have it.... you have it.
I hope you do find love again, because you deserve to be loved.
God Bless,
Sue
kandy p
i thought you need info
bambi
ur seeking for an emotional security, sympathy, and love. I dont think u r much bothered w/ ur disease.
freshbliss
I found the people who rejected me were shallow, emotionally unavailable, and generally only looking for sex. The downside is that they were generally right up front about why they rejected me, and it made me feel like a total loser for a very long time
On the bright side - in a way I avoided a lot of heartache right out of the gate because these people fled right up front.
Yeah, I got rejected in some very cold tasteless ways - but it was by folks I wouldnt exactly have a quality relationship with anyways - It took some time for me to see something of a brightside in that.
ONe thing I have found that helps, is to let people know -usually after a short time, but before sexual activity is inevitable - that you have the disease, then let them know it is contaigous, even if you use protection there is a chance of them getting it, etc - give them a good education - and then tell them that you are willing to wait to see if they are comfortable with the idea. Then wait and dont make a move. Because in the end, they have to feel they are okay with it....And if they aren't - that really has to be okay too -
Don't worry - someone will be. The fact is, many more people have it than you currently think. You only feel totally isolated right now. It gets better, but it takes some time
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