i have had the virus for 2 years i havn't been tested but i know i have it. waiting till i turn 18 to get tested and then my parents wont find anything out.
Jenni Fraun
Sweetie, i completely understand. I chose to stay with the asshole who gave it to me, simply because im afraid no one else will have me. It would be way too embarrassing to tell someone, and sex is very important to me. I would NEVER be able to give someone this virus just because i couldnt do that to someone. How long have you had it?
You can email me, i have been where you are.
whitesunfire1998
I have been married for 7yrs and I've had herpes for 10 yrs my husband understands we were friends before we dated so he knew the situation .If the person truly loves you he or she will not care.
Grammie
Herpes viruses, although not curable, are known to have outbreak periods (flareups) and on the opposite end of that they also have dormant periods. Back in the 80's and beyond, herpes wasn't as understood as it is now in the medical and/or scientific field. In fact, they now have medicines that help control the flareups.
As for finding a partner, when two people fall in love - and you will - they will do whatever it takes to be able to have a healthy sexual relationship along with the mental, physical and friendly relations. Just be sure to speak to your doctor and learn all of the safety precautions you can take so as not to infect a partner.
Are there many relationships that form when one partner finds out that the other partner has herpes? Yes, as a matter of fact there are. My best suggestion is to find online support groups, then try branching out to local support groups. Who knows, you may even meet that special someone that shares that intimate detail with you!
Love will truly conquer all, just keep the faith and be as open and honest as possible to weed out those that aren't meant to be. Best of luck to you, and I hope to read about your success soon!
Rivergirl100
Yes. A normal life is possible. I was a wreck when I was first diagnosed. I was sure that my love life was over, that no one would ever love me again. It was awful.
And it did change the way I dated - for the better, actually.
When I started dating someone new, I had to tell them about the herpes before we had sex. So after we went out on a few dates, when we first starting necking, I would tell him that I needed to take things slowly. That kissing was fine, but that I needed some time before we had sex. I would NOT tell them that I had herpes at this point - but they usually picked up on the fact that I had SOMETHING that I needed to share before we got very sexual.
Once we dated for a while long, once I trusted him and really liked him, I would tell him that the reason I needed to take things slowly is because I have herpes.
I made sure that I knew as much about the disease as possible. I got my info from the American Social Health Association - who has a great web site, and even a toll-free number (in the US) where you can ask questions safely and confidentially and know that you are getting correct answers. This was, I was able to answer any questions that he might have. I would also tell him about the web site, so that he could get info.
I never had anyone reject me. By that time, he knew that I was honest, and that I cared enough about him to protect him as best I could.
I took Valtrex to reduce the likelihood of transmission. I promised to tell him when I even THOUGHT I might be having an outbreak, we always used condoms, and never had sex if there was any danger that I might be having an outbreak.
And I ended up in better relationships, with guys that I really trusted and cared about. Honestly, it did good things for me. I was less casual about sex, and ended up having wonderful, caring relationships.
It so hard. I know. But over time, symptoms usually lessen. And now, I hardly even think about it.
I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. But it is NOT the end of normal relationships for you.
Good luck.
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